Energy Allies
Posted by terrepruitt on March 30, 2010
When I attended the Nia White Belt Intensive I had not heard of the Four Agreements so I was very captivated by what we refer to as our Energy Allies. When I decided to attend the Intensive I had only been to four Nia classes and I had decided I wanted to teach it. I had no idea what to expect. So these Energy Allies came in handy for me.
We call them friends and rely on them as you would friends. I am posting these because I often need to be reminded of my friends and I thought I would share them with you.
I was taught:
1–Speak with impeccability
–We were reminded to stay “on task”. Often times in a group setting questions are asked that do not actually relate to the subject being discussed. Or people like to tell stories about something “sort of” related to the subject.
–We were also instructed to use “I”. When we talk we often tend to project what we are saying instead of saying “I”.
2–Don’t assume anything
–Don’t “make up” stories in our head. We don’t really always know what the story is so we shouldn’t make it up.
-Quiet our inner mind’s conversation.
3–Don’t take anything personally
–Don’t get caught up in self-pity or self importance.
–Try not to get emotional about a comment.
4–Always do your best
–No holding back
–Follow instruction
–Recognize what is required
I thought this was a GREAT way to start a seminar or in this case an “intensive”. I wished we could have employed these agreements when I was a corporate trainer. I think they really assist in keeping the group on task. When people are allowed to share information that pertains to the subject yet understand that off topic issues will be put on a back burner, that helps keep the subject flow steady. Keeping the inner mind silent assists in hearing what is being said. Not taking comments that were made personally allowed the information to be given and received so that it could be useful and not destructive. Following instructions assisted with the energy in the room. When we all understood what was required we were all able to focus on the moment’s assignment.
Keeping these four allies around really enabled our group to keep our energy going. When listening is not at a premium and/or people are emotional about something it really can zap the energy of the collective.
These are friends that can be invited to anything in one’s life. Do you have these Energy Allies as your friends? Or are you familiar with the Four Agreements?
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niachick said
Nice one, Terre. These Four Agreements (by Don Miguel Ruiz) adopted by Nia as the Four Energy Allies are intregal to my daily living. The 2nd and 3rd are the two Allies that are most important in relationships. Don’t Assume Anything and Don’t Take Anything Personally. (By the way, Don Miguel Ruiz has a new book out now called The 5th Agreement which is about mastering the original Four Agreement (4 Allies) mentioned in your post.
My father told me early on in my youth not to assume anything because it makes an Ass out of U and Me (ASS-U-ME). Did I listen? Probably not…I continue to find myself taking things personally and assuming things…however, I’m much quicker at recognizing that I’m doing so and changing my attitude/behavior so that there’s no harm done.
The ego loves to use the mind to make stories up, take things personally and assume things…the mind and the heart, when working together under the ego’s control, can really cause chaos when there really is no cause for it. These Energy Allies are magical in keeping the truth in the forefront.
Thanks for posting these Terre. Have I told you lately how much I appreciate you and your blog postings? If not…please know that I very much look forward to receiving them!!!
Blessings to you my friend!
Jill
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terrepruitt said
Jill you are so amazing. I need to make these a part of my daily living. That is one reason I did a post on it. For me, I can’t say that 2) Don’t assume anything and 3) Don’t take anything personally are the most important in relationships. I feel that sometimes 1) Speaking with impeccability is very important in my relationships. Often times if in a discussion it is important to stay to the point and to bring up the “I” so as not to accuse with “you”. And I think it is sooooo important to (4) always do your best in relationships—especially a partnership/marriage. Oh, Jill, they are just all so important I couldn’t say one was more important.
While check in on my facts I did happen to see that Mr. Ruiz has written a new book. At first I thought, “Five Agreements? Oh no, I forgot one entirely.”
In some situations it is most difficult to not take things personally.
Enlightening what you say about the mind, heart, and ego. Thanks.
Have I told you how much I appreciate you? I was talking to someone about online people and friends and she was surprised that you and I had never met. She thought we were friends prior to online. She sees you here and on Facebook and recognized your kindness. That made me happy that she had seen our exchanges and it made her think we were good friends. Because we are, we just have never met in person (over rated—just kidding).
Thank you for reading and commenting. Hugs to you!!!
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niachick said
And one day soon (I hope) we WILL meet in person!!! Until then, I will enjoy your awesome friendship via energy and vibration (and of course Blogs and Facebook! And Twitter, too!!!
🙂
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terrepruitt said
Yes. One day. We will dance together. 🙂
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niachick said
And yes, yes, yes…all of the 4 Energy Allies are important in relationships for the exact reasons you noted!!!
Muah!!
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terrepruitt said
Back at ‘cha!
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suzicate said
Good pointers that Ineed tomake a practice of incorporating in my daily life. Thanks.
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terrepruitt said
I need to work on making them more a part of my everyday life, too. I had hoped that posting them would help. 🙂
Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting.
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Sherry said
The Four Agreements is such a complex, simple book. It’s kind of like a primer for life, if we could only remember this on a daily or even moment to moment basis. We can use it in any walk of life, board room to operating room. If people could read even the summary they might take something away into their daily life. I just wrote a post called “Being Impeccable With Your Word” and would love your feedback. Namaste, Sherry
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terrepruitt said
I agree with you.
I wrote the post because I need to remember to keep them as my constant companions. I am still learning.
Thank you for stopping by and commenting. Hope to hear from you again soon.
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