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Birthday 2017

Posted by terrepruitt on September 18, 2017

Sigh. We all grieve in different ways. We all feel it differently. For many of us we agree that there is no right or wrong way. Many of us navigate the waters of grief the best way we can. We also try to help others do so in their own way. Different days and different occasions affect people in different ways. Many people get emotional on the birthday of the loved ones that have died. I understand that because a birthday represents another year that the person WOULD HAVE been alive. It represents a passage of time when memories could have been created. Also the DATE of the death is a heavy one. I feel that even if I think I am going ok emotionally around the date of death, my body responds in its own way. The day I really get sad is on MY birthday. Today is my birthday and it is the first birthday where I am not getting a daughter card. You know, one of those mushy cards where a parent tells you how you are the greatest, bestest, light of their life. It is sad.

Last week, the 12th, marked a year since the last day I saw my dad alive. It was to be only two months until I visited him again, but . . . . .

So, today, I’m a little sad. There is a message on my answering machine (yes, we still have one of those) that I have played a few times. It is my dad wishing me happy birthday last year. I don’t know where I was that I wasn’t able to answer the phone. I think I called him back and talked to him . . .but it might have been the next day.

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Yesterday we were at a wedding and the father-daughter dance was sweet. It reminded me of my dad when we danced at my wedding. My husband and I danced a lot back then (Country Western; two-step, West Coast Swing, Waltz, and Cha-cha) so my dad said he was really nervous. We were just stepping and sway and he kept saying, “Do you want me to do something? Should I spin you? Do you want me to dip you? Is this ok?” It was cute. He made me laugh. Last night’s father-daughter dance made me teary-eyed.

Not to say I am not having a happy birthday, it is just sad, no card, no call this year. And, not ever again.

8 Responses to “Birthday 2017”

  1. Carol Hamilton said

    I want to give you a big hug, Terre,to hold you in your grief, and also to thank you for sharing it. I have yet to experience the death of a parent, but I know it is coming soon,and I am learning from you. I send you wishes for comfort.

    On Mon, Sep 18, 2017 at 7:04 PM, Terre Pruitt’s Blog wrote:

    > terrepruitt posted: “Sigh. We all grieve in different ways. We all feel it > differently. For many of us we agree that there is no right or wrong way. > Many of us navigate the waters of grief the best way we can. We also try to > help others do so in their own way. Different days ” >

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  2. I’m sitting here in a little house in Tuscany reading your blog and sharing it with my wife Ann Marie and my dear friend Linda. We are all so touched by it.

    It is so beautiful that you have such good memories of your parents because so many people don’t. I too have good memories and for me I find that my dad is always with me in my workshop. I was very close to him so I truly understand your grief.

    Sending you love and peace and beauty.


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  3. Happy birthday and nice remembrance of your father and mother.

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  4. Joan said

    awww…. sending hugs!! You expressed it so well!

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