I was recently watching a TV show where one of the characters told another, “I wonder what would have happened if I met you later?” He went on to say that had it been five years later and they passed on the street would they have looked at each other and known. He was surmising that had they met later HE would have fallen in love with her and been ready to settle down and not practically leave her at the altar. Just like when people say, “I wish I would have met you sooner.” With that sweet sentiment they are usually saying that they wished they would have met sooner so they could have been together longer. But I don’t believe either of those ideas. I think that in both cases if the meeting would have happened at different times then they would not have fallen in love.
In the case of the TV show, he literally fell in love with her (in my opinion) because of what she was doing. Had it been five years later she would have not been doing that. He fell hard when she was lovingly caring for his siblings. He decided to marry her when someone died. Had it been five years later those situations would not have been occurring and he wouldn’t have fallen in love. I believe she would have been an entirely different person. He would have too, so I think that they wouldn’t have fallen in love.
The same with the idea of meeting earlier. The person that would have been encountered years earlier is not the person you met and fell in love with. In general, I believe that people fall in love with a person as they are and in the circumstances they are currently in so they might not have been the same years earlier and they might not be the same years later.
Now I know this is all a generalization (as I said) . . . there are plenty of people who fall in love and then for a multitude of reasons never get together or don’t stay together only to get together or back together years later when they meet up and their circumstances have changed. Love is just a crazy amazing thing. Ya never really know.
This thought was just a Monday musing because of what I saw on a TV show.
What are your thoughts about the timing of love?
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