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Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

The Timing Of Love

Posted by terrepruitt on February 11, 2019

I was recently watching a TV show where one of the characters told another, “I wonder what would have happened if I met you later?” He went on to say that had it been five years later and they passed on the street would they have looked at each other and known. He was surmising that had they met later HE would have fallen in love with her and been ready to settle down and not practically leave her at the altar. Just like when people say, “I wish I would have met you sooner.” With that sweet sentiment they are usually saying that they wished they would have met sooner so they could have been together longer. But I don’t believe either of those ideas. I think that in both cases if the meeting would have happened at different times then they would not have fallen in love.

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The same with the idea of meeting earlier. The person that would have been encountered years earlier is not the person you met and fell in love with. In general, I believe that people fall in love with a person as they are and in the circumstances they are currently in so they might not have been the same years earlier and they might not be the same years later.

Now I know this is all a generalization (as I said) . . . there are plenty of people who fall in love and then for a multitude of reasons never get together or don’t stay together only to get together or back together years later when they meet up and their circumstances have changed. Love is just a crazy amazing thing. Ya never really know.

This thought was just a Monday musing because of what I saw on a TV show.

What are your thoughts about the timing of love?

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First Day Of Spring

Posted by terrepruitt on March 21, 2013

Dance Exercise, Nia, Nia at the City of San Jose, Nia classes in the South Bay, Nia Teacher, Nia Class, San Jose Nia, Nia San Jose, Nia workout, Nia, ZumbaSo today marks fifteen years that my hubby and I have been married.  It does not feel like it has been fifteen years, but then again, what does that feel like, right?  I mean I know I have been waiting in line for something and if you ask I would say I have been waiting for months.  🙂  Time is an odd thing because if you ask me if it “seems” like it has been FIFTEEN YEARS, I’d say, “No.”

We have know each other eighteen years as you might have read about in my Day Ten Of Month Of Planking, First Day Of Nineteenth Year post.  We have been married for fifteen years.  It was my ideal to be married on the first day of spring.  And honestly looking at calendars back then there seemed to be different ideas of whether the first day of spring was March 20th or March 21st.

I had always believed it was March 21st so that was the day that I thought would be nice to get married.  It so happened that March 21st was on a Saturday in the year 1998 . . . . so that is when we got married.

The first day of spring is like an announcement of new beginnings.  New life begins.  New things happen.  Flowers bloom.  It’s all new.  I think it is fitting and romantic to be married on the first day of spring.  Even though we had been together for three years, our wedding was the start of a new life for us.  A life for us together.

I wasn’t nervous, because I had no doubt.  I was impatient.  We had created a very short ceremony where the minister only talked for about ten minutes.  There was no singing, no reading, nothing.  It was scheduled to last about 20 minutes.  Now, if you ask me how long it felt, I might reply fifteen years.  I swear the minister sounded like all the adults on Peanuts and he could not be done fast enough.  When he had John’s ring in his hand I kept reaching for it.  I mean, he was just talking jibberish anyway.  All I was thinking was, “Let’s get this marriage started!!”  And I was shocked out of my revery when my husband-to-be playfully smacked my hand after my third grab.  Yeah, the whole ceremony was wiggles and giggles.

Dance Exercise, Nia, Nia at the City of San Jose, Nia classes in the South Bay, Nia Teacher, Nia Class, San Jose Nia, Nia San Jose, Nia workout, Nia, ZumbaI am very blessed to have been granted partnership with my honey.

To my Honey:

Thank you very much for all the wonderful times we have had.  I appreciate all you do for us.  I look forward to the next fifteen (and hopefully a lot more) years with you.  Thank you.  Happy Anniversary.

Ladies and Gentlemen, thank you very much for reading this post.  I know I don’t always stay on track EXACTLY, but many of you know that a happy healthy relationship is key to well-being.  Now, I am not saying that a relationship is a steady ride, there are ups and downs, but getting through them is what helps with the “well-being”.  Also, I am not saying that one needs to be in a relationship in order to well, but I am saying that when there are relationships and they are happy and healthy that adds to someone’s well-being.

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Marriage Ruminations

Posted by terrepruitt on March 15, 2011

Since I’ve been teaching Nia classes our roles or our “duties” have changed a bit.  Since I don’t get up at the crack of dawn any longer and I have more time at home, I try to do more.  Because of this change I have been thinking a lot of one of my favorite stories.  When I was working at a 8 to 5 job I was talking to a friend and the subject of marriage came up. She said she didn’t want to get married.  When I asked her why, she said she didn’t want to do all the cooking and cleaning, she didn’t want to be stuck at home and not be able to go out, she didn’t want to share the finances.  She looked at me so confused when I said, “Granack-ack!”  Ok, I really didn’t say, “Granack-ak!” But the look she gave me would have made you think I was speaking Martian.

I had actually said, “Don’t.  Don’t do all of that.”  I asked her why she thought she had to do all of that and she said that is what marriage is.  That is how it is.  I laughed, kindly, of course, and explained that I didn’t cook every night, do his laundry, and stay home all the time.  She kept looking confused.  I kept talking.  I explained that marriage is really whatever the two people getting married agree upon.  Apparently that had never occured to her.  Maybe she just really hadn’t given it much thought.  I don’t know.

When I first met my hubby I told him I wasn’t going to cook every night, do his laundry, or be responsible for everything.  Since I was working too, it needed to be even.  We did a lot of things that might be thought unconventional in a partnership, but it worked for us.  Every marriage is as unique as the two people who are married so there really is no set “norm”.

I believe the two need to be in agreement with how the marriage is going to be.  It would not work if one partner thought going out every night was ok and the other one didn’t.  If one thinks that dinner is going to be made and put on the table every night then the other one must be in agreement.  If there is not agreement on the expectations and duties then there is going to be a lot of problems. And since marriage is not easy, since no matter what there are challenges, it is important that there is agreement on how it is going to work.

When situations change and different things come up hopefully there can be a new agreement reached, if necessary.  The point is that people can make their own marriage however if works for the two in the marriage. There is no cookie cutter recipe.

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